One thing I noticed today as I was sleep training our 5 month old son, Liam, and potty-training our 23 month old daughter, Haris, they were both crying (no tears, plenty of noise)…

and both were learning.  A light bulb went off in my head.

“Learning takes tears.”

In the process of learning there are great joys and proud moments sure, but sometimes, often times the reward(s)come after the tears.

Learning how to make my own latte there were no tears at all, well tears of joy, but we all want those.

Learning that planning my goals, writing them out, high lighting, color coding, setting dates, etc., meant nothing without the doing and that doing was more than I thought resulted in tears and a heart to heart conversation with myself.  What I want has a cost and I have to pay up in time, discipline, sweat, and going outside of my comfort zone.  If I’m not willing to pay up, there’s no need for me to be frustrated with myself starting and stopping, etc. I need to quit or I need to pay and I need to finish.  None of us have forever.

There’s so many sayings,

“plan the work, work the plan”

“just do it”

“But do you want to know, O foolish man, That faith without works is dead.” – James 2:20

Two nights ago, I wrote down a workout for myself to do, that part was easy.  I then got dressed, went downstairs and began the regimen, and thought whoever made this workout is ridiculous.  I didn’t quit, but I did modify 2 of the exercises.  That was one night, I didn’t reach my goal in one night and there was progress, which is a for sure win!

Wanting is easy, not wanting is hopelessness or a sign of dullness, and changing your mind is your choice.  But if you try to change your mind to avoid the work necessary for the want, you will have regret.  If the want won’t go away, then you have the responsibility to do the work.  Shakespeare said “To thine own self be true.”  Trying to save you a trip from going around that mountain of false “I quit.”  You can not deny what’s in you, you can waste time, make excuses, and avoid what’s calling you until your turn is up though.

I don’t think anyone regrets hard work (work smart too).

So, yes, you can do it, and only if you do it.  And if your hard work isn’t obtaining the goal…maybe the problem isn’t the goal, but the plan.

“It’s suppose to be hard, if it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it.  It’s the hard that makes it great.” – Tom Hanks, A League of Their Own

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  1. Deb

    Hang in there Ms. Courtney! It becomes easier, the more to do the thing(s). As your little ones are learning, you also are learning. . . about patience, respect, and doing things over and over again. Remember the importance of taking time to take care of yourself (even if you have to schedule “your time” at odd times!). It truly makes a difference. God’s plan for you and your husband is to train up your children . . . they are our future leaders and representatives! I will continue to pray for you and your loved ones, Ms. Courtney. You are teaching me to stay positive and optimistic!

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