Ouch! That hurt…
How do you deal with pain or disappointment? This is important. I don’t remember at school or at home anyone really sitting down and telling me, things in life will hurt, this is how you deal? I was told that I’m strong, that I’ll be alright, and I’ll have another chance.
Maybe that’s why playing sports or board games when we’re children is so important; there’s winning, losing, teamwork, communication, work ethic, integrity, choices, progression, etc. Even in playing these games there are still ungraceful winners and sore losers. There’s pain and disappointment, because there’s hope and care. So how do you deal?
Dealing with something is different than forgetting, masking, burying, escaping, throwing a tantrum, or ignoring it.
Deal with. – take measures concerning (someone/something) especially with the intention of putting something right.
Now with that being said I am not discounting that there is a time and season for every activity under the sun (see Ecclesiastes 3) I am saying how we move through one season to the next is important.
We’ve had some trials the past 3 weeks – 3 car wrecks, no one hurt, one totaled car, none our fault, emotions running a little high, some stress, some crazy people trying to stir trouble, and various other little hiccups/inconveniences.
Now mind you, all of these seemingly noisy problems are just that, noise. And I’m thankful to God, neither one of us is hurt, and right now at this very moment, what’s wrong exactly? Nothing.
We can look back or we can look forward, only one of those options is the direction we can go. And there’s only one place we can be, that’s here in the now.
After the 3rd wreck, I got a little scared, like something was out to get us. When bad things have happened, it’s easy & a natural response to get scared & think something else bad would happen, that’s where the devil wants you. Our emotions are not always reflective of the truth.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” – 2 Timothy 1:7
1. I called my mentor, she’s wise and will speak the truth to me. Do not call anyone that is going to disempower you. She encouraged me, & gave me instruction.
2. Praying the word of God, looking at His truth versus a few situations, and accepting that I have authority, put me in a different space.
3. Sing – it’s an outlet, and singing praises to God will remind you of His power, and your position in Him.
4. Look for the good, and count your blessings.
5. Know that the past is exactly that, the past. Don’t live from there.
6. Be courageous and accept that you can not predict the future, but you can hope and believe that better is to come.
7. Just keep your mouth closed. Thank you life lesson from Bambi, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.” – Thumper
8. Let the emotions move through you. Feel the emotions, breathe through them, let them pass.
“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” – James 1:2-8